Divorcing a spouse is a difficult period for anyone. Instances will arise while in the courtroom or in the middle of litigation that can and perhaps will make emotions boil. Here are some tips to remember when your spouse and you have decided to go your separate ways.
Divorce is not about punishment
Many divorces result from unfaithfulness and anger can pent up from what one can perceive as the ultimate betrayal. This can result in callous actions in the court. The goal of divorce is not revenge or punishment. Rather, it is closure and peace. Don’t make the situation about making life difficult for your soon-to-be ex-spouse. A divorce should be a period to make sure your interests are fully protected before moving on.
Your attorney is your guide
Your attorney fully understands that you’re going through a rough time and it’s easy to sometimes take your frustrations out on him/her. Furthermore, doing the same to your spouse’s can result in a prolonged and bitter divorce. It’s very important to understand that your attorney is your friend in this situation. He/she is holding your best interests at heart and wants nothing more than to award you what you deserve. Also, remember that your spouse’s attorney is doing the same. Neither attorney brought about the situation you now find yourself in, so don’t direct your anger towards them.
Your children are most important
When going through a divorce, rough or not, it’s easy to forget that you and your spouse aren’t the only ones dealing with your separation. Your children have unwillingly become participants and their welfare must be preeminent over yours. If you’re ex-spouse and you are ordered to split custody, then the two of you are forever jointed through your children. Don’t allow your cold feelings for him/her (should there be any) trickle to your children.
To learn more about the better ways of handling the process of divorce or if you are considering one as an option, contact the experienced divorce attorneys of McAllen’s Barrera, Sanchez & Associates at (956) 287-7555.